This post is prompted by three things. One--listening to my best friend's 3 month old baby laugh at the skating rink yesterday. Two--snuggling with Z this morning while he was still asleep and smelling his hair. Three--being at "coffee night" with my friends last night and having the nice older women at the next table tell us to "enjoy it, they grow so fast. Stop hurrying and being so busy or you'll miss it all." And, as they left saying, "Keep enjoying your beautiful fertility!"
So, this morning I laid in bed smelling Z's hair and I thought of 10 things I love about having little children:
1. The sound of a baby's laugh--especially the early/first laughs. There is no more pure joy to be found in the entire world.
2. Breastfeeding--particularly those times at the end of a long, chaotic, busy, stressful day when I lie down with my baby and feel both of our bodies relax and become suffused with a sense of peacefulness and rightness and, "this is what life is all about." As Louise Erdrich said, "Perhaps we owe some of our most moving literature to men who didn't understand that they wanted to be women nursing babies." :)
3. Smelling their heads, particularly when they are asleep and nestled against me with head under my chin, my nose and lips resting in their hair. Perfect happiness.
4. The things they say! I couldn't make this stuff up if I tried and I'm glad I keep a little book of notes. L LOVES me to re-read the funny things he said when he was about Z's age. He still cracks me up all the time, but it is especially funny when they're less verbal and still figuring out how to talk.
5. Still being able to fix just about anything just by being there and giving hugs.
6. Watching them when they start learning how to play imaginatively--Z (2.5) is at this point now, where he sets up scenes and has stories going on. I loved toys so much as a kid and so loved playing with my sister with all of our little people and Care Bears and so forth that it is really fun to see my own kids creating their own imaginary worlds now. I had so much time to play as a kid and I think it was really good for me.
7. Watching how their drawing skills develop/unfold. L (5) is amazing to watch in this respect.
8. The learning to talk stage--where it is just an explosion of new words every day.
9. Their unselfconscious ease in being naked.
10. Having one who is "older" (5) now and enjoying how companionable our relationship has become and how helpful he is.
Oh, and they're awfully cute too!
In their Halloween costumes preparing to battle each other (I love having boys!)
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